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Old Aug 06, 2016, 01:59 PM
truthnlove truthnlove is offline
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Originally Posted by sophiesmom View Post
Not sure what part of the forum this would go under..

Like the title says, how do stop this? It's NOT a case of time making it better, believe me...Or any kind of exposure therapy...(I think that's what it's called)

How do you not hurt?

I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling right now with your sensitivity. I'm highly sensitive myself, so I understand that it's not easy. Is there any particular situation you're struggling with, or just in general?

I've found a few general things that have helped me, personally. First, is recognizing it - which you've already done. You're aware that you're highly sensitive, and that at times it results in you getting hurt easily. This allows you to take personal responsibility for your feelings, rather than blaming other people.

As I've started to recognize the degree of my sensitivity, I've also realized that I have a choice. I can either try to tone it down/turn it off, or I can learn to channel it in the right direction. I've decided to start seeing my sensitivity as a gift. It allows me to understand other people better, and to extend love to them in ways that less sensitive people might not.

That said, high sensitivity absolutely carries greater potential for hurt. But as others have mentioned, there are ways to learn how to deal with that. One, as previously stated, is establishing healthy boundaries. Another is forgiveness. Harboring resentment, even at a subconscious level, only hurts you. It's not easy, believe me - oftentimes I've thought that I'd forgiven someone, when in fact I hadn't. But as I've learned to truly let go of past offenses, I've found so much healing and freedom. As I walk in forgiveness, I can acknowledge that what other people did was, in fact, hurtful and unfair. But also choose not to stay there and wallow in it. Let it go, and move on with life. When I do that, it's also easier to see things from the other person's perspective, and realize that they've been hurt in the past, too.

Hope this helps!
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Thanks for this!
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