Pink,
I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. When I told my T about my erotic transference, I also felt that empty feeling. When he knew, I had no choice but to realize that I was never going to have the ever-lasting connection to him that I desperately wanted. To me, it feels like I'm in mourning. I guess this is progress.?? Maybe, but it is quite painful.
You said:
I said, "I exhaust you, don't I?" He said I don't, but I still think I do.
I absolutely love that quote! I say that to my T about every week, but replace exhaust with annoy. I never believe him either when he says that I don't annoy him.