Hi Goldi,

Remember that therapy is at your pace, not T's. So if you don't feel ready to talk about something, or if you don't want to talk more about something, or if you want to stop talking about something, it's fine to say that.

You could, if you wanted to, go back and talk about his abrupt question and how you felt about that approach, but state that you don't want to talk about what the question was about yet because you aren't ready.

My last T jumped right in the first or second session about something that I was in no way ready to talk about! Even after I spoke to her about her pushing too hard she did it. I have a new T now and while she knows because I mentioned it (with much distress) as part of my general history, we haven't talked further about it. I've been with her for 7 months and I'm still not ready. That's okay with her.

Maybe he was just gathering info but isn't planning on delving into it yet. But for your peace of mind you could clarify that with him and tell him you've said all you want to say about it for the moment, if that's how you feel.

Welcome! Hope to see more of you.