I noticed something in your first post... you stated...

I have asked for either your direct involvement, or else, someone else, like a theologian, to at least pass judgment on my logic/theology, and you have supplied me with neither.

Im wonder if the reason they did not respond to this is because you are asking them to make a judgement about your own beliefs... here in America no one can judge another's beliefs, here in america every person has a right to believe what they want to believe with out another person discriminating /making judgements about them and their beliefs. the only person that can judge whether your logic \theology is right for you is you.

one way I figure out whether my logic/theology is right for me is I sit down with my journal and write about my life, where I am today and where I want to be in the future. then decide whether my logic \theology as it stands will get me there, if not I make changes in my life that better helps me to get where I want to be.

only you can decide whether your thinking style and beliefs that you hold is right for you.

respecting yourself ...again only you can know what you need in order to have respect for yourself.. when I wonder whether I have respect for myself I think about what the word respect means. sometimes even look up the definition...respect means I know what my abilities are and can perform those abilities, when I look at myself I see a woman who I like, care about and want the best for, I dont self injure, use drugs or alcohol that can do harm to my body, I wear clothing that is right for me, I dont try to compete with other people, and I dont need another persons approval for what I say and do.I do whats right for me and my family and if I encounter those that reject\question my points of views, behaviors i think well thats them and this is me and I move on to continuing to do whats right for me and my family.. ... all these things show that I do have respect for myself.

I can understand that you want your parents held accountable for what ever wrongs they have done to you but in the end thats not going to make you happy and content. my own abusers were prosecuted and sent to prison but I still had to deal with my own inner problems,

my suggestion is to think about the future. you may not get the answers and results you are looking for so ask yourself something like ok Im not going to get what I want, life isnt always fair and my way. what can I do now that is in my control to make my own life better, what can I do to help me feel good about myself. what do I have right now in this moment that I can do for myself that does not hinge on other people...

then take care of those things that are in your control to help yourself. who knows you might discover that you are a very likable person who can do things with out other people making judgements of whether your logic\theology is right for you.