Yes, you can be shy and confident, but being confident while you have a slow processing speed is very difficult, because the fact is, most people will NOT like you or respect you if you put yourself out there. If you are a female maybe, but as a male, no.It is ingrained in our culture that unintelligent males are worthless. Ironically, I think I am way more intelligent than most of these people who would pass judgement on me. But if you can't show people that you are intelligent, it doesn't count.