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Originally Posted by Michelea
Hi rdgrad15 
Personally, I never feel like someone asking to help is meant to be intrusive. It's just a natural reflex in many people to offer help when someone is doing something..
One time at work, I dropped a binder and papers fell out and spread out on the floor. Someone walking by, on their way to a meeting, started to help pick them up. I smiled, said thanks, and that I could get the papers myself...there was no need for him to be late for his meeting. He still stayed and helped, just because he was nice and was raised to offer help. I thought he was just very nice, but didn't feel like he was being intrusive or disrespectful.
I think you were very polite when you declined the offer of help from the girls. Not sure what set your sponsor off...sounds like she has her own issues which then made all of you a bit uncomfortable. Sometimes we just need to take a deep breath and not let someone else's unfounded actions ruin our day. However, if this is a consistent problem with her, talk to someone higher up about these issues.
I see that you have three posts here today, so guessing an anxious day for you. Gonna send some good juju your way for a calmer tomorrow.
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Thank you. Yeah I see what you mean. I just thilnk it is always a good thing to ask to make sure someone doesn't need help before assisting. It is one thing if it is so obvious that it would be stupid to ask first, but it is another if it may seem like they may be fine without help.
And yeah, with the sponsor going off on me, I do agree. I do think she just has some problems or insecurities herself and for some reason thought it was okay to lash out at me. The fact that she just assumed the worst about me probably means she saw something in me that she disliked about herself, since that was not the first time she had done that. She had a history of snapping at me for little or no reason.