Hi Talthybius. Yes, you do sound a lot like him.

I know what you mean about me having actually said good things about my relationship. It's just that whenever I've talked to people in the past about my relationship, except maybe once, I'm told that it's not a good relationship and that I should leave. I'd like to think I'm a reasonable person, and everyone telling me one thing tends to change the way I see things. Well, I also don't trust myself to know how a relationship should be since I have so little experience.

I hope you keep in mind that although what I said strikes close to home for you, it automatically doesn't rule out the pain and sadness I've felt in this relationship. I've done so much for him and he doesn't seem to notice. It's understandable I feel unloved sometimes, no? I'm willing to accept that it has to do with the way he is, but I have to learn to "put up with it." No one asked me to date him, to be blunt. Like any relationship, I'm in it of my own volition. I do very much love him and don't want to hurt him by breaking up with him, but obviously any breakup is always painful. If I'm unhappy, I should leave, for his sake and my own.

Thanks so much for your input, however. It's good to get two sides of this. I hope I'm not making a mistake, but I am genuinely happy that someone said that he hasn't been that bad of a guy. I'd love to think he loves me back and that we could work through this. But he really is a different sort of person. People who know him know this about him. My boyfriend's simply my boyfriend. He's not insensitive, and I've seen him cry more than once when I told him I was unhappy about things. Of course, we worked things out. I wonder sometimes if my complaints are too hard on both him and me. I do believe breaking up with him would take a huge toll. I'd let his family and his best friend know, in a kindly way, that's it's not working out and that I want them to be there for him after the breakup.

I guess I'll think on it a bit more. I feel overstretched. One side of me says he's a great, loving guy, one side says he's taking advantage of me and will probably cheat on me down the line, causing a great heartbreak.