Hi,

I can relate to your story. I have dealt with M.E. and fibromyalgia for over 30 years. I have also had other complications.

I have had to try to keep friendships going, which you know, isn't an easy task. The amount of pain and fatigue is very draining.

I do understand why you may feel badly, yet you are being honest with your friend.

Kudos to your friend! I get the sense she really tried to find something she thought you could tolerate and something you could do together. I really think she was trying hard and wanted to surprise you. It's also possible she thought the massage would help to ease your pain.

Wow! she trying to find an alternative? I have had people give up and walk away, rather than to find an alternative activity. What a friend!

Nobody has to be the "bad gal" here. You are friends, communicating honestly, loving one another. There are lots of reasons to celebrate this friendship!

You can only do what you can do.
I have learned more about self-compassion and it's helped me tremendously.
Here's an intro. by Tara brach if you may be interested:
https://www.tarabrach.com/meditation...lf-compassion/

Be kind to yourself!
Be kind to one another! Sounds like an amazing friendship!


WC