Did you figure out how to change this behavior? I identified it in myself some time ago and I've been working on changing my thinking so it's no longer a thing for me, but I think it's still probably there. I mean, logically I know it's not right and I know it's not what I want for myself, but I still feel like it's there waiting to be triggered. It's a very neurotic and unhealthy way of relating to others. It's also weird for me in that on one hand I want to be that person for someone, whilst at the same time I kind of want them to be that person for me. Very contradictory. If you have any advice would really appreciate if you could drop me a PM or something.

Sorry for going off topic OP.