In my experience, things only happen when you make them happen.
But I say that as a 33 year old male. Yes, virgin, never kissed anyone since age 9, never been on a date.

Every girl used to know I wasn't interested in any girl and I was mean to them when they showed interest. Why? Because I was honestly afraid and felt they were making fun of me. Until I became more mature. Friends used to think I was gay. They used to talk about having sex with girls, about 'scoring'. But honestly, I'd reject a one night stand with the prettiest girl in the world. I'd rather have sexual fantasies where I was 100% in control.

Maybe this is a huge secret, but probably not. Men fall in love. And they do it quickly and suddenly. Why I fall in love at the times I do and with the woman I do, that is the greatest mystery in my life. It only happened twice. But it happens. And to other men more often than to me. And they fall in love with people that are a part of their lives. Not some girl they see walking somewhere or some celebrity. No, with a person they talked to.

And once they are in love, they will believe you are extremely beautiful, even if you are not. I tried to convince myself I cannot fall in love with woman that aren't extremely pretty and probably way out of my league. But when I look at an old picture I saved 13 years ago of the girl I was in love with for years, she is not that pretty. And she aged 13 years in reality. But I thought she was the most amazing person on the planet.
My friend who knew her told me that in his eyes she was 'nothing special' either physical or personality-wise. And he apparantly had a clear idea which girls were out of his league and which were not. I have no clue.

Looks aren't anywhere near 100% objective, but in general people find the same people attractive. And more than half of the people, they are below average by definition. In fact, females think that 80% of men look below average. source: Your Looks and Your Inbox « OkTrends
But it's not the physically not attractive people who never get into relationships. They do. And yes, usually they are both not that attractive.
I see them everywhere, happy or unhappy, I don't know. But they aren't single. So even if you are not attractive, this is no reason to have no relationhips.

Not being motivated to look out for that one person, and the challenge, stress and troubles that come with it, when you don't even like that person; for this issue I have no solution. I don't know how other people can do it. And if you ask them, they think it happens automatically. They will even tell you to stop worrying about it: "It will happen." they say.
I don't see it.

But for woman, they are not expected to take any action. The man is. So, even if a woman takes 0 initiative, she will have romantic interactions. A man, probably not unless a girl in his life rates him as top 20%.
Are you really sure you have taken more initiative than the average male your age? Because if not, you are just chickening out like most females and letting the men do all the work. I know, it is a selection requirement hardwired into the genes. Females select for active males and you can't do that if you aren't passive yourself. But that's just genes. No need for them to dictate our society.

What do you do? For hirsutism, you can shave. I don't know how bad it is. Maybe you are overly self-conscious, maybe not. But I can't say you are wrong in saying that it doesn't make you less attractive.

Personality is probably most important. I can't imagine how I could fall in love with woman that's passive and doesn't radiate feminine energy. And she has to have things going on in her life that make you admire her. And she has to be pleasant to talk with. And I don't understand that. I suspect I am not pleasant to talk with for many people, but I myself react very strongly to this, though maybe only when it's about people of the opposite sex. I don't know how to be more pleasant. You can't force yourself to say things you don't feel like saying, and you can't be safe and say the minimum.

Your face you cannot change, but your body you have some effect on. If you are overweight, you can eat less. If you aren't as toned, you can do more sports. I see overweight woman sometimes who have really attractive faces but have bodies that are both unhealthy and unattractive. And being young and overweight usually says a lot about your upbringing and character. When I say 'overweight' I mean 'overweight'. You bring up your body yourself. So as a solution-oriented man, this is what I answer. Not the "You need to be self confident about your body, no matter how you look." That said, the 22 year females that are most sexy, body-wise, they will be too fat by the time they get to be 35. Thin isn't that attractive, to me.

If nothing else, though healthj diet and sports you can become more confident.

Then you need to be enthusiastic, spontaneous and feminine always because you never know when you meet the person you'll become interested in for the first time.

And then have as many interactions with males that meet the criteria you have. You can write down the criteria your reason can come up with. But better would be to figure out the criteria your emotional self responds to.

At least you are sad right now. I was never sad. But now sometimes I see something on tv and I realize I will never be a 23 year old in love with another 23 year old. Something like almost everyone experiences, and I never came close, partly due to my own doing.

I also don't understand men. There's men out there that are so desperate, they will have sex with almost any female. And I guess that is the minefield for females, having to deal with all these men only interested in shallow interactions. I am not one of them and I never have to deal with them, so to me that's completely alien. But when a female comes and says she can't get romance to happen, it strikes me as a bit odd. Maybe it is not romance, but are you really sure no male is interested in you in this shallow manner? And that they are desperate doesn't mean they are low quality. No, it's men that have their life on track. I guess that's how some females increase their confidence.