I once said something particularly snide to my T and was surprised when he got pissy about it. I realized then that I'd started to take his non-reaction for granted; I'd started being an uncensored, unrepentant asshole just because he'd take it without lashing back.

I think it's not such a good thing when what is considered acceptable behavior in therapy drifts too far from what is considered acceptable behavior in other contexts. I, at least, needed that little reality check to remind me that I was going to therapy (in part) to figure out how not to be an asshole, not to have free reign to be an even bigger asshole

Rainbow, I'm sorry things are hard and complicated right now, but I'm glad you felt you had a productive session. I think it sounds like it was productive, too.