separated several years, divorce being finalized. She seems to be unable to lift a hand and do anything herself. She isn't crying that he rush over and do these things but will drop a receipt for him without even advising him of her perceived neccessity for discussion. There have been things he could have done or had done far cheaper. Meanwhile, I have not moved in. This is a point of contention for me preventing me from doing so. I feel as though she is controlling my life too. There are no children involved thank goodness. I understand she was very high maintenance in the relationship. Oh she's since announced she can't do the housecleaning either and has dropped him a bill for professional cleaning services.

I applaud the suggestion of getting a doctor's note. If it does turn out she is incapable of doing these tasks on her own, there exist programs for doing these chores for the physically disabled for either free or subsidized rate(s)