The interesting question would be what was it about you that made him dump you?

He never said. He just never called me again. Then one of his friends came in and asked me out, saying that he had sent him, and I went on one date with the guy even though I had zero attraction to him and was pretty heart broken that he had dumped me.

I assumed that he was more interested in the girl with the double D's who was living in his apartment and was after him. I thought maybe he used me to make her jealous.

He is a facebook friend of mine now. He's been married for years, not to that girl, and has grown children.

We all have issues with the other person we are with. There is NO PERFECT compatibility......it is just about how critical are those issues with the other person as to whether they are a "make it of break it" to the relationship.

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You define this as causing trauma?