So my N mom only helps with babysit maybe once or twice a year , she took my son last night for a few hours to help so I could go to group. It always triggers me.. I try to be the kindest I can , I go to pick him up, she completely ignores me, texting on her phone while I'm trying to reach out and connect for a few minutes.. like I'm invisable. I try not to ask her for anything, it always triggers.. but she is my mom ,,, she does stuff wtih and for all the other grandkids all the time, weekly and its rare for me and my kids and its never initiated by her.. its sad, but I'm learning to change my expecations .