Take a deep breath, relax, you're going to be alright


It's hard when our loved ones are not on board or seem to be one foot in, and not to invalidate your entire post, but it can be really hard on them too.


Now idk if your hubby is just being a plain old selfish jerk, or if he's suffering from the same type of burnout my bf did a few years ago...

I'm not there idk what brought the two of you to this point.


What I can do is share the highlights of my story...

I have bipolar, borderline and OCPD... At one point the borderline in me was ruining everything, wreaking havoc left, right and centre. This was before being diagnosed with it btw. Which made things very confusing.

Our relationship was tumultuous as a result, I kept pushing and pulling, being hot and cold, needing him madly, rejecting him coldly. Etc

On top of that he was my only source of support.

Eventually I broke him. He was drowning in my Borderline BS found a life raft and jumped ship instead.


That was a wake up call for me.

Anyway I finally got dxd, did my research, went to weekly therapy as well as a weekly DBT group.


I remember having this epiphany while listening to a song. I finally understood why he left. And not just the "I'm unworthy" or "he's not into me" BS I fed myself for a year.

So i emailed him with this revelation and an apology, also stating (genuinely) that I was glad he had the good sense to save himself.


Then he drove to my house and we've been inseparable ever since

Bonus is I have not been wreaking any kind of havoc so he is not in need of any coping skills for living with someone like me.

That was in 2012.


Point?

It's really shyt when they don't support us like we want, but sometimes they just can't, and sometimes for whatever reason, we just have to fly solo for a while.


I suggest you find a DBT group to join, it may be just what you need, and if it is, you wont have to find hubby material on coping skills for him.