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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Hi. I just found out that my boyfriend is paying (half) of all household costs in addition to the mortagage and support payments.
It is my belief that things like lawn/yard maintenance ought to be paid by her. Similarly things that she decides to do on a whim, like paint the interior of the home to better suit her decor or have a professional put in a garden. I will add that she has no physical barrier to doing these things herself. Furthermore she doesn't contact my boyfriend to discuss these decisions beforehand. She simply presents him with all these bills and he pays half.
Is this normal? This certainly is not how things worked after my divorce. I got a pay out and was left entirely to my own devices.
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Support isn't typically itemized or detailed. There is child support, based on things other than specific needs like food, shelter and clothing, it's based on simply the age of the child, number of children finances of parties and age of marriage. Nothing is laid out to specify what should be paid for because it's a specific amount that is decided on.
Same with spousal support. If they are doing it this way it's up to them, if he doesn't think it's fair, then it's up to him to use the court system to decide how much the amount should be. what she uses the money for is entirely up to her. She should not be saying "I need a new ____ give me $xxx"
That being said, has he voiced his own concerns about what he is paying or is this your concern? First off, this doesn't concern you nor is it really your place to decide. if he has a problem with it, then that's one thing but outside of that I would leave it be. On top of that you're his girlfriend, not even his wife, so really probably best to stay out of it.