Thank you for that! How do I go about finding those groups? I agree with you, that's probably what I need to do. I think for now the best thing for us is to not talk about it as much at least until he comes home. I have borderline as well so I can relate to what you experienced. That's been a lot of our problems. And until recently we didn't know what it was. But it was definitely ruining our relationship. I'm so glad to hear your story ended well and that you guys found each other again and worked it out...that gives me tremendous hope! My husband opened up last night and said he thought I wasn't caring about how any of this was affecting him and that it made him feel alone and distant. Idk. I just hope and pray we make it the this. I was married before him for 10 years that crashed and burned, and this relationship is by far better than any other I've had and I'm madly in love with this man. Again thanks so much for your response!