This issue is only due to them still being married. You kind of had to specify that in your op. My response only applies to divorced people. I symphatized thinking that judge was unreasonable.

In your situation though your boyfriend is still married and chooses to do things for his wife such as yard maintenance. It's certainly not something you can blame anyone but your BF for. It's his choice.

It's always problematic when you date married people ( separated or not), it's never a good idea IMHO

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