My first T, who I saw for 10 months used to challenge me like your T is doing. I found it really difficult, and experienced shame and rejection. My view on it now is that she was challenging the wrong thing. What I need to have challenged is the shame I feel about being me, and my view that my feelings are unimportant etc. I think that my first T's approach actually just confirmed all that in my mind. My current T has not challenged me at all, but my therapy with her is helping to changing the way I feel. My relationship with my H has really improved during the time that I've been seeing her. I think that my T's acceptance and understanding has indirectly helped our relationship as I am happier in myself now.