well that's a tricky question MY bipolar didn't ruin my life it just has taken it's toll on my enjoyment and quality of life. My mother's bipolar ruined my life. The trauma from the mental, emotional and physical abuse I suffered at her hands because of her "moods" that ruined my life. The c-PTSD and all the night terrors and all the other "gifts" I still suffer from yupper life ruining.