I'm so sorry that your relationship ended in a way that you didn't expect But it sounds like you made a decision that you felt was best for you and I applaud you for that. It's not always easy to take that step, even when we logically know it's the right one.

As for what you said in this quote, legally, if you are not her patient (whether that be permanently or for a 'break' from therapy, she is not ethically/legally/appropriately able to speak with you and/or your family members outside of the therapy room unless it's for administrative reasons such as scheduling an appointment. I don't think it's personal. If she's avoiding you, it's probably because she knows that it will difficult for both of you to pass each other by and not say anything.