Miswimmy,

I feel for you. Had this happen a couple of times during my search for a new T.
The painful thing was that I felt that I could have worked well with those Ts (well, maybe. Looking back I'm not so sure..)

It's so incredibly hard not to take this personally and feel rejected, especially since you opened up a little bit and made yourself vulnerable. Only to be told, sorry we can't work together. And for her to hide behind ehm 'technicalities' (for want of a better word..)

But, ultimately, it is their problem. So don't take the blame for this, and please don't feel shamed by her. Easier said than done, I know. And it stings.
But in the end you're really better off without this T, believe me. If she's acting so awkward and clumsy now - how would she behave once things start to get a bit difficult between you (and this most likely is bound to happen in any therapeutic relationship, sooner or later)? And that one would hurt even more.

With regard to your history:
Maybe you could give a potential T the basic facts about the forced termination and forced transition. But leave out that they accused your T of being unethical and leave that bit for later. You could just tell them that you were a minor at the time (if I remember correctly), that doctors and your parents thought your T wasn't helping and thus you were forced into seeing a new T... Make it clear that it was also a conflict with authorities (your parents, the doctors) and not having any say in the matter and thus feeling helpless and not so much about what your former T did or didn't do. Make it about you and how you felt in the situation, and how this tied in into you history of being adopted...

I'm sure that once you got a good working relationship going with a new T that all the details won't matter so much any longer.

Wishing you all the best for your search. Hang in there.
Hugs, c_r