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Originally Posted by Luce
Anyway, the thing that drew me to respond here was your comment about not wanting to come across as oversensitive or as needing to be treated with kid gloves.
My first thought about that was that it seemed 'judgemental' of yourself. You don't want to be seen as being over sensitive.
It seems to me that when this old stuff gets triggered we are very definitely in that moment 'over sensitive' to something which is not typically a problem for someone else, but is definitely a problem for us. Being 'over sensitive' is just what it is really, isn't it? It's just par for the course when wading through this triggering stuff, and it is honoring yourself more than anything else to 'go gently', to tread carefully, and to treat yourself with kid gloves. That would seem to be healthy, positive self-care when wading through certain minefields, if you ask me.
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Thank you Luce,
you're right. I don't want to be seen as over sensitive... even though I am (in certain situations, when I'm triggered etc..)
So yeah, it's finding that spot of positive self-affirmation and self-compassion, especially in those situations. And finding the courage of asking for what I feel I need. Allowing myself to ask for it, in fact. Because also, just the fact that I'm contradicting my T in situations like this is triggering in itself. And telling her, I don't need x right now but y or z, is contradicting her (as an authority figure, as crazy as this sounds). Again, she doesn't act or come across authoritarian, but it's all in my head..)
How do I get out of this dilemma??