You described feelings that I totally relate to. I think you have a great understanding of it and thank you for helping me see more clearly.

As far as what you can do, I would say something to t like-- We have a good relationship and I am benefitting a lot from our sessions. Last time, when you challenged me by making me feel like you took my partner's side I got very upset after I left. Can you please try to be more gentle with me in this area, as I have trauma over these feelings from my past.

When I have mentioned on here that I have had bad experiences with therapists, one of them really attacked me by taking what you described to quite an extreme at only our third session. I got hysterical crying in his office with my husband there (marital problems), my h didn't defend me at all (another trauma from the past) and I cried all night long through an entire box of tissues.