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Originally Posted by lona3
It makes me really sad that I'm missing out on things that everyone else finds so normal...
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First what normal is, is whatever is natural, comfortable and acceptable to you. There is no norm when it comes to who's dating, who's not and just because many others are involved in relationships, it should not be a reason to be motivated to find someone yourself. Find someone for your own reasons! Don't worry so much about what others are doing
Be your own self, independent and unique. Your path and life is not something that should conform to what you think is some norm.
It's ok to want to be with someone but to do it for reasons like "because everyone else is" just isn't good.
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I've never been on a date and practically no one ever shows interest in me, just like I never seem to be interested in someone
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If you are not interested in anyone, perhaps working on being single and being content with your life as it is, is something to work on. It is not wrong nor is it a bad thing to be single and alone for a time, heck it's not a bad thing for some people to remain single for life, if that's what they choose. My only point is, if you're not interested in anyone why force the issue? you'll only end up with the wrong person that way anyway
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I want to fall in love and get married some day
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as many do but you're 22, young and really, does it have to be NOW? because it doesn't happen in the next x number of days, weeks, months or even years does not mean it's a permanent thing.
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I have hirsutism and I'm not the prettiest girl out there I guess. I'm just ashamed of my body and I don't feel like my personality is that likeable. Even though I want to be in a relationship, the thought of become closer and more intimate with someone makes me feel nervous and awkward since I have less experience than most teens.
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I too had to look up the condition and if you ask me, there are ways to deal with that, it's not like a condition where you can do nothing about like one that has deformed your face or body and you can't cover it up/fix it. As others have pointed out, you can offset it with waxing etc. I'd try that if if makes you less self conscious.
Being ashamed of your body may feel like something unique to you but truth is, almost all teens, esp. teen girls are like this on some level. Even those that seem really confident and happy outwardly have some of the same issues but don't show it. Trust me on this. I know your condition may be very extraordinary and rare but it's not an impossible thing to overcome
What matters more is you, your personality etc.
Everyone's personality is likeable by some and by others not so much. We are all individuals and someone that appreciates your particular traits and personality is out there. NO one is loved and cared for by everyone around.
Also being nervous and awkward is ok too. I've been married, had kids and everything but I am super awkward still, at my age!
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The older I get the more difficult it becomes, since people just expect you to have at least some experience at this age. I just don't know what to do, I feel like I'm in a never ending downwards spiral which makes me feel hopeless and without a real future to look forward to. I'm really scared I'm going to end up alone.
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"the older I get..." Really, I'm going to say this again. You're ONLY 22! some people don't even get into relationships until your age and older and that's not abnormal. Again there is no standard for this. if someone tells you otherwise they are full of s*** . Going to end up alone. IT is far too soon for you to even worry about ending up alone. Future does not = being in a relationship. As long as you tie a real future to being in a relationship you'll feel hopeless. find your own future, goals and this, for you, yourself by yourself and independent of a relationship. Then and only then should you even be in one. happiness, contentment etc should be fulfilled free of other people because others will always fail to fulfill all of our needs.
Hang in there.