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Old Aug 11, 2016, 10:11 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2013
Location: North Carolina
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It’s been a while since I’ve posted. I have been on and off these forums over the last couple of years – so happy you guys are all here.

First of all, thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts with me back in 2013/2014. To make a long story short… a quick update. My husband and I decided to get back together after our separation and make it all work. One of his requirements (he had a list for me) on getting back together was that we needed to move to a more economical place so we were no longer living paycheck to paycheck. So we did. I found a job in an area he agreed to. We ended up moving across the entire country with our 2 small children. About 60 days after moving in, he told me he wanted to try and make it on his own because he realized the cost of living was such that he could. He moved out and that was just over a year ago. He also mentioned he met a woman at work who invited him to the beach and he realized the only reason he couldn’t go was “because I am married.”

It has been a long year of him using the children as little chess pieces in order to get his way … to control me … to keep me financially stuck. At one point he even told me if I filed for divorce and custody and made him pay for any child support through the court system, he would show up on my door step “knock on the door and once you open the door, blow my brains out right in front of you.” Now he is actually blaming me for him leaving me.

I am ready to move forward with filing for divorce, begin custody and child support proceedings. In this state, we had to wait a year to file for divorce. After everything that has happened, I feel it is wisest to get a lawyer to help me. Once things are filed and this is all set in motion… things are going to get much worse with him. I need less than $1,000.00 dollars to get the lawyer. I’ve saved almost ½ - and it’s been a long year of saving. Thing is… he has now stopped paying his ½ of any child care and other child related expenses. He has determined his reasons for this as being fair (I make more money… he is with them during the day on some days during the week… mind you – I still have them for more hours on a weekly basis, it’s just that he sees the hours that they are sleeping as not applicable). So – I can’t get the rest of the money together because I barely have $200 left over in the month to pay for gas to get to work and food for my children. If I were to get a flat tire – I would be devastated. AND - I already work 2 jobs!

I feel so stuck… held hostage… at his mercy. I don't know what to do.
Hugs from:
eskielover, hannabee, Passioncompassion, Yours_Truly