Sorry for the long story but I have a lot of details to go over.

I have been married to my wife for 13 years and been together for 18. We started dating young when we were 18. We have two kids who are 8 and 4. I thought our marriage was good and I have loved her very much. She has always bragged to friends how good of a husband I am and how much I have supported her while she went through school and work. She has always told me loved me, missed me if she was gone and showed affection. I had no reason to ever suspect anything was wrong in our marriage.

The past 3 years have been difficult in our marriage. My wife started back to school in 2013 to finish her degree. Getting her degree was very important to her and it had always bothered her she stop going to school when she was younger. So for two years (2013 - 2015) she took online classes. This was stressful during our marriage. Basically for two years, she would come home and go to her bedroom doing school work in the evenings while I took care of the kids and dinner. I never complained because I always saw us as a team and I knew this was only temporary as she worked through school. However after she got her degree, she immediately signed up again to get her masters. At this point I did not want to do this for another two years. I felt like we were drifting apart and I expressed my concerns to her. I told her I felt we were drifting apart that she had a void in her heart and that one day she would find someone and leave me. She hugged me and told me I had nothing to worry about.

In April 2015, she applied for a job out west because she was unhappy with her current job. I had family in the state she applied for the job and I was excited about moving. She got the job and we moved in June. The plan was we would live with my family until we saved enough money for a down payment on a house. Unfortunately the job ended up being terrible and not having our own home put more stress on our situation. I knew my wife was unhappy and I did whatever I could to support her and relieve any stress on her since her current job required long and odd hours. I did most of taking care of our kids and whatever else needed done for our family. During the year we lived with my family, my wife became very distant. When she would come home, she would go to the bedroom and either take a nap, watch TV, or do homework for her online classes. I took her behavior as to being depressed about her job and our living situation. We always talked that we knew this was temporary. We also decided we did not like living out west and decided to move back east.

In April 2016, my wife was offered a wonderful job in the east and in a state we had always wanted to move to. When my wife was offered the job, I did a 180 and wanted to stay where my family was. I asked her if she would consider finding a job here so we could live close to my family and buy a house. My wife did not want to stay and wanted to take this job in the east. I told her I would support her and I knew it was not fair for me to say at the last minute that I wanted to stay. So we agreed to move and I never brought it up again about wanting to stay.

My wife moved in May and I had to stay 5 weeks in the west until our son got out of school. At the beginning of June, I saw on our cell phones records that she was texting a number numerous times a day since she had moved to the east. I looked the number up and saw that it was for a male co-worker she use to work with in the west. I called and confronted her and told her if there was something going on between them to please tell me because I want to work on any issues our marriage might have and that I understand the past year has been difficult for us. She said they were just friends and that I had nothing to worry about. She continued for the next couple weeks that she loved and missed me and could not wait to have her family together.

On June 17th, she flew in to help me load the moving truck so we could head back east the following day. After we loaded the truck she went out to have some drinks with some friends that she use to work with. I was not crazy about the idea but it was the last time she was going to be able to see them. Later that night around 1:30 am she had still not come home. I called her several times with no answer. I checked the location of her cell phone and it was at the guy's apartment complex that she had been texting. Around 3 am she finally calls me back and I am furious. I tell her I know where she is and to get home now! She comes home and tells me she is in a emotional relationship with him and had kissed him. She said she loved me and said she not know if I loved her. I told her I loved her very much and cried as I held her. I knew we had some work to do but I thought our marriage could be saved. The next day we left for the east.

After moving to the east I found out she was still talking to this guy and saw a few text and emails between them. They where telling each other that they missed each other, etc. Her and I continued to argue and fight for the next 3 weeks because she would not stop talking to him. She would change her story about how she was feeling each time we got into an argument. Some nights I was hysterical and actually broke the TV because I was so upset which is not normal behavior for me. Eventually she told me she did not love me anymore and had not loved me for the past three years. At that moment she turned off all affection for me. She no longer told me she loved me, did not have any emotion as I begged her to try for our marriage. She has told me she does not deserve me and that I will move on and find someone else. She shows no concern for the children and simply said they will be ok after we separate. At this point I can not handle being around her anymore. I see her walk in from work acting as if nothing is wrong and still knowing she is talking to this guy. Then I find out he is trying to get a job in the same area she is. I decide I and our youngest son are going to go back west for a month until she gets her own apartment. In Sept I am going to take the kids to her parents for couple weeks and then head back to my apartment. Recently I find out she has bought a ticket to fly out west for labor day weekend to spend with him while I am at her parents taking care of our kids. I was furious, hurt and texted her asking how she could do this so soon after leaving me and not giving me time to adjust. How could she not come in to see her youngest son who by then will be away from her for 5 weeks. Her only response was an excuse for planning on seeing our son earlier but couldn't because I was coming in with him later and that she was sorry for hurting me.

I am beyond devastated at this point. My emotions are all over the place. One minute I am furious and the next I am crying. I do not know who she is anymore. Its like my wife has died and someone else has took her body. I know she is gone and there is no chance we will ever be together again but I would love to know other's thoughts on what is going on with her? What the hell is going on in her mind? She claims this guy has nothing to do with this and that she would be leaving me if he did not exists. I do not believe her and have told her if hat was true she would have left me before she met him. She also claims she never told me how she felt because she was not sure what she felt before she met him. I do not know what to believe or think at this point. Right now I am trying my best to move on but its so difficult. Has anyone else ever heard or experienced their spouse doing something like this?