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Originally Posted by Brasucasulu
Thanks so much Karen. I'm sorry that you have to go through similar situation. It is very frustrating. Today he called us because he wants to come and visit, so he demanded my BF to buy them a flight ticket. My BF isn't rich, so he told him that he can only do it next month. His dad goes and says: ask you woman to buy it then, she's doing good at her job, she should buy us a 1st class ticket. I was like wtf! I don't flight first class myself, because I CAN'T afford it! He's continuously demanding things, even money to go and play in the casino. My BF and I ended up arguing, he said his parents are old and he wants to spoil them while their still alive. So, I told you ok, but do it with you own money, because I also have a family to take care of. It is driving me nuts.
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I get that he wants to treat his parents while he still has them, but there are other ways to do that than jump to a demand for 1st class tickets. I could speculate but it sounds like BF is trying to please them and dad is manipulating this need BF has for validation.
My advice to you would be to stay calm when you talk to BF about this (if you need to vent about it then find a safe space away from him), it sounds like he is reacting from a deeply emotional vulnerable state and may be finding it difficult to be reasonable - remembering this may help you keep compassion towards him. It's perfectly reasonable not to want to fund their travel, never mind as 1st class, state this as calmly as you can. Let him know that you still love him (he might possibly be reading this as rejection of him), but the rational reasons why you do not feel it's appropriate to fund 1st class tickets.
Good luck
