Thank so much. I will follow your advice. I asked my BF nicely today that he has to deal with his parents demands the best he can. I'd support him as much as I can, but I cannot afford helping them financially, because I have family obligations too.
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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
I get that he wants to treat his parents while he still has them, but there are other ways to do that than jump to a demand for 1st class tickets. I could speculate but it sounds like BF is trying to please them and dad is manipulating this need BF has for validation.
My advice to you would be to stay calm when you talk to BF about this (if you need to vent about it then find a safe space away from him), it sounds like he is reacting from a deeply emotional vulnerable state and may be finding it difficult to be reasonable - remembering this may help you keep compassion towards him. It's perfectly reasonable not to want to fund their travel, never mind as 1st class, state this as calmly as you can. Let him know that you still love him (he might possibly be reading this as rejection of him), but the rational reasons why you do not feel it's appropriate to fund 1st class tickets.
Good luck  |