My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago. We ended on okay terms, but it was an emotional break up. It was his idea to break up, but I told him I understood. He has a lot of baggage from a past relationship, responsibilities of having full custody making it hard having a relationship now, and legal/financial/emotional issues to sort out. It was really a case of bad timing, and he requested that he needs space and that he can't be in a relationship. I do agree that a serious relationship is not realistic between us, but I'm still struggling.

I started the No Contact rule to try to give myself time to heal, but he contacted me one week into the break up. I did respond briefly to let him know I was not mad at him, because he sent frantic texts concerned about this and that it "seemed like forever" since we talked. He sent worried texts a few days later after that. I called him and explained to him that I still cared about him and was just taking a step back to give him the space he needs and for me to clear my thoughts. Our talk went well. He said he would like to see me soon, and the feeling was mutual. It wasn't a talk about getting back together, but it was clear that we both aren't ready to let go and it was his idea that he wants to see me again soon. We didn't set up anything exact yet, and I know he has a lot of responsibilities as a father where he can't just drop everything at any time.

A few days later, I sent a text to mainly say "hi" and have a light, friendly conversation to show I cared about how he was doing. It went well and ended positively. I decided that I would just let him reach out next since I don't want to push him into anything and so I can try to clear my mind. It's been a little over a week where I haven't heard from him. I would like to see him again, and he indicated that previously, but now I don't know how to interpret the silence between us. I was thinking it's now on him to reach out and that I should maybe go back to not contacting him for a while. Basically, I miss him and want to see him again, but I don't want to ruin our chances or look desperate. I somehow wonder if his pride is getting in the way of reaching out now though since he probably feels he appeared desperate with the frantic texts on two occasions....he might be a little embarrassed. What should I do? I was thinking maybe No Contact for a while to try to work on myself emotionally, but also to show him I'm not clingy. I don't want him to think I lost interest though, and I hope he would still like to see me again as he said before.