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Old Aug 12, 2016, 09:43 AM
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I need help. I started a relationship, which is going to be mostly long-distance with a man who has bipolar. I am absolutely mad about him. The problem is that it feels like he doesn't care. And not only that he doesn't care but that he wants to show me how little he cares and wants to tease me and make me suffer. He wasn't writing to me and I explained that it's important for me in a long-distance to know I am not the only one who is trying to keep in touch and I need him to write to me fro time to time to show he thinks of me and cares. He initially ignored me and said I was trying to impose some sort of routine and regiment on the relationship. I was feeling hurt but also worrying I might be too needy and suggested we put things on hold until we meet. He then said he will starting writing that we are in this together. Only, he didn't. Then he started posting on social media romantic confessions about having some nostalgia about past loves. I felt like I can't be in this if I feel like he is ignoring my emotions and also putting on display his feelings for other women - whether he really feels this or it is just a pose. I wrote a very angry message calling it quits. But I can't stop thinking of him. Even though it looks like he is playing a power game with me and wants to show me he doesn't care but also to evoke some sort of emotional reaction in me. So, I restricted his access to my social media in order to block the behaviour I don't like - commenting on my posts but never sending me messages to say Hi and ask how I am. He found out very quickly, got angry and blocked me. Now I go on and on in my head trying to figure out if I could have done it in a different way. If it would be different if I had kept my cool and not get upset and just not care too much. I feel somehow guilty that it ended. But in my head I know that he would have found another way to upset me and have emotional control over me - like saying he thinks of hurting himself when I am not 100% dedicated to him at hat moment, or denying he had been flirting with me for months before I took the first step. But it is all so confusing because I still love him, despite knowing he is a selfish unstable man, who will never really acknowledge and respect my emotional needs.
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