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Old Aug 12, 2016, 04:07 PM
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no one is made for romance. Romance is a something you experience, something you make happen from being in a situation. Romance is not anything anyone is skilled at because what is romantic to one person may be different for another and it depends on the couple and what they find romantic. some may find climbing mountains together romantic, others a candle lit dinner and a movie.. still others may find something altogether different. You cannot be made for something that takes two to figure out.

Romance is not an automatic thing either even in the best of relationships it takes two, it takes work and it takes time and getting to know someone. So each one of us has the capacity for it and the ability to be or not be romantic but it's all quite subjective and relative to where you are and who you are with.

So moving away from the literal, I believe she feels like she's not the prime material for her target group ( think it's males but I don't like to assume and don't feel like scrolling :P deal with it) to find attractive for being in a relationship and have all things romantic with.

To this I defer to my short statement before, not everyone will find you attractive and desire to have you as a mate but rare few have everyone want them in this way. But that's not the goal is it? One that decides they want to be with you is all it takes. You are unique and different have your own ways, personality and behaviors. yes even your awkwardness can be found cute and appealing to some people. Truly it's not a weakness though it can be a hinderance to finding people for you simply because we (yes me too, as I said before) make it harder by limiting ourselves with our awkwardness.

as I said, focus on happiness, contentment, doing well and good in your own mind and accept where you are. it's a journey. some of it will be alone and some of it with a partner. Neither phase is better or worse, just different. embrace where you are right now and be content. Honest, guys and girls will always notice those of us that are the most content and happy with our lives.

Hang in there.
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Thanks for this!
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