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Originally Posted by Shawkat2009
You think I haven't seen suffering? Wow. I was raped at 13, molested at 8, cheated on countless times once while ip. Beaten emotionally and physically and unable to work for seven years as I learn to rebuild myself.
My current husband thankfully has the patience of a saint and a heart of gold so if my opinion is that of better porn than cheating I think I have a valid point.
I am an adult btw with grown children. My ex husband made mincemeat of my self esteem I was left or rather I had to leave my home with my teenage son, no place to live and no job.
I responded because it appears you think you have the right to tell others what is right or wrong. I'm tired of people condemning others because they watch porn. It's a personal choice and shouldn't be up for debate especially since you are referring to other people who aren't here nor able to give both sides of the story friends or not.
Haters will hate I choose LOVE and minding my own business when it comes to my friends sexual habits.
Take care, enjoy your life. Mocking you may not have been the best way to respond but I had a point to make. C'est la vie!
Peace
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My history isn't all plushies and flowers, but I won't detail it here.
I am not telling people they are wrong. I am not going up to people telling them 'stop watching porn, you gross guys!'
I only voiced my opinion about how porn is harmful in general.
The people I know were just an example, and I doubt you're so interested in both sides as you're not even interested on HOW I VIEW porn.
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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
I do think if one partner is into porn and the other isn't, then it's something that needs to be talked about.
The OP seems to me be suggesting that only men like porn, but there are women who also like porn. I think it's too simplistic to just make a blanket statement and say "porn is bad".
I'm not pretending. I honestly don't know if there is enough evidence that suggests that porn is a problem. Would the OP like to make a better case?
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I agree in a way. In my case, porn makes me suffer a lot.
When I talk about porn, I talk about the violent porn that's pretty much the only type people watch.
I'm not referring to bdsm, just to the humiliation and hurt being done to these women.
We all know that the porn industry destroys the actresses and actors.
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Originally Posted by Shawkat2009
Firmly planted in reality.
Has had fantasy turn into reality. Being bisexual.
Porn not necessary to myself or husband but I still would rather it to cheating. MY opinion that works in MY life.
Truly madly deeply in love with my husband.
Know that movies mainstream, porn, what have you, unless based on a true story, fiction or fantasy not reality.
One chooses what they believe. I know no one who has a porn addiction but I do know a lot of people who enjoy porn once in awhile. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist for some.
Everything in moderation.
I'm done with this thread. Take care!
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What does all of this have to do with porn or not porn ?
I know that most people in relationships watch porn and still love their partner.
Porn from these last years has increasingly become ****ed up, and people who see it are curious and they watch, and they start wondering about all these acts and what it would be like if acted out in real life.
And they may have a partner who just wants a normal sex life, not being humiliated and degraded or hurt.
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Originally Posted by Artchic528
Wow....just wow....
Just one question. Why does a complete stranger watching porn in the privacy of their own home, or what have you, bother you so much? What is it to you what I do behind closed doors when it doesn't harm anyone?
Sex is a basic and essential need. It also releases endorphins and bonds two people closely, and on a very deep level. When a person has no one to connect with on this deeply intimate level, they require the use of self love to meet that need. When they practice the art of self love, they sometimes need a bit of visual stimulation to complete the task. That is my case. I don't require more than one or two sessions every 4 or 5 days to satisfy this need. Besides, it's been clinically proven that regular orgasms are beneficial to a woman's overall health. It not only releases endorphins and dopamine to stimulate the pleasure centers of our brains, but it is also good for cardio vascular health as well. I assume male orgasms are on the same level of this beneficiary health factor.
You seem to be harboring a lot of resentment towards porn and bottled up sexual repression. Perhaps something happened in your life that triggered you to feel and act this way. May I suggest you seek out a T to work out this resentment and bottled up repression your exhibiting?
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I am not even talking about SEX. I am talking about PORN.
If you can't make the difference, then maybe you're vulnerable in the face of porn.
I can orgasm with no problem with only my imagination and no visual stimulation. And I orgasm a lot and although sex is a sensitive topic for me, masturbation isn't. And I don't need porn.
Porn isn't a way to get rid of 'sexual repression'.
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Originally Posted by pachyderm
Here's my particular take on (soft) porn:
I think it probably interferes with a real adult relationship.
However, I was brought up in a very sexually repressive atmosphere, and porn was a relief to me to be able to think about sex at all.
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i agree.
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Originally Posted by Patagonia
Do you have any idea how old porn is????
Do you know it's inside the great pyramids of Egypt? Ancient relics of China ?
It's here to stay! Thanks god.
I love PORN!
And if we talk about issues that are detrimental to relationships let's all take a look at what we're looking at!
A screen. How many hours do you spend on yours? There are so many things that can hurt a relationship & yes porn is just one of many.
Let's outlaw alcohol!!!!
Oh yeah that's been done....hmm
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I am not talking about erotic/pornographic pictures from the past.
I am talking about the porn from the 90's up to now, with automatic violence in it.