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Originally Posted by divine1966
He might get divorced. But it won't all of a sudden make him a nice person. The fact that you are willing to excuse inexcusable behavior is concerning. What does it teach your daughter: it's so important to have a man so it's no matter how he treats others?
I don't think you see the true issue. It's not him being separated or not, it's him lying and now not returning your things etc his lousy behavior is an issue. But you want him in your life so much that you are willing to put up with this.
You said you grew up in dysfunction ( many of us did) and that's why you excuse all this but now your daughter is observing dysfunction and will also think it's ok. She already knows that mom has this guy who wouldn't return her phone and mom is still rooting for him so it must be ok to let men behave this way. You don't want her to live this way do you?
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Ok. He's sending it. He and I were in a fight for a week because he feels hurt by me however he's sending the phones on Monday. Separated is different then married and it does matter on Facebook . I am friends with his friends , his father, and acquainted with his wife.
Why did I post here?
To get the strength to walk away from the phones if I needed to.
I even told him last night some people had advised me to be nice until I got the phones and then say f you and walk off. He knows I'm not like that.
As far as my teen goes, people get romantic about children so I think I'm going to take my leave at this point.
Thank you for your input.
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