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Originally Posted by Big Mama
Recreate that at H's house.
My new goal over the next few weeks is to take the negatives and make them into a positive. So instead of saying I am really gonna miss the peace this house offers, I need to say I will go home and there I will try my best to create and make that kind of peace there.
The T said when I do return I need to make it known how difficult of a transition this has been for me and how unsure I am of returning. He needs to continue to make it so that I want to be there. Any time I hear something I need to say it. I need to say "That is the kind of changing I was hoping to see or this is one of the things that caused me to leave in the first place. If I don't say it then he can't fix it, and if I don't encourage positive change then he will not no to continue. So at least now I have a plan.
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Prayers with you. I really like your mindset of bringing back with you what you know works best for you and what you need to feel centered each and everyday.
If you don't mind my pointing out as far as communication goes one part that might not gel, is the part that says, "this is what led me to leave in the first place."
Instead, perhaps, state how it makes you feel combined with what your solution would be, offer alternatives as a means where with his newfound awareness care of you expressing your needs, he can make a choice to accommodate you. He can make a choice to acknowledge you. Your decisions based upon his behavior choices is on you not him, if that makes sense?
"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West