LOL.....Living alone, I always need farm hands. Luckily my farm isn't operational yet as I haven't set up a place for my chickens or fenced it in to have my horse brought here but just maintaining the fields & all the overgrowth from my woods that is surrounding my home is definitely enough work to keep a dozen people more than overworked.

It honestly sounds like both of you have emotional intimacy issues & when you put 2 problems together, it only makes the problem worse.....I know as that was exactly what was going on in my marriage. But then if I had known what emotional intimacy had been in the first place (if I had been around parents who had been emotionally healthy & knew what it was like), I NEVER would have even considered getting married to the guy I got married to at the age of 21.