Hey, haven't posted here in a long time. Primarily because I've been busy with a pregnancy, work, and finally maintaining a stable, long-term relationship. In short, things have changed a lot for me.

My baby was born last week. The entire pregnancy, people liked to ask me "What will you be called?" I never knew how to answer. My partner was 'Daddy' from the get, and the title has fitted him since she's been born. There's never been any hesitation from either of us calling him 'Daddy'. Me, on the other hand? I still don't have an answer to the question.

I considered many options. I considered just dad, I considered Papa, I considered baba, maddy, etc. But nothing has fit. The only title I feel fits is, ironically, Mommy. I never thought I'd say that, or type those words. I'm still transgender. That, of course, hasn't changed and never will. Yet, I don't know if I'll ever transition. On top of that, I carried my baby for 9 months, gave birth to her, and did the things socially considered those that "Moms" do.

All that said, would it be weird if I - a trans guy - considered myself my baby's "Mommy"? Does anyone else here have a family structure similar to mine, and can you offer any input? Are there, perhaps, any trans women parents who consider themselves "Daddy"? Or any other trans men parents who are fine being called "Mommy"? I'm just wondering if this is a common thing, and if so, what kind of problems you face when announcing your decision.