Monalisa, I've had a really bad T experience and am a walking text book on the red flags.

The things that would worry me about what you describe are her behaviour and your reaction. She has made YOUR therapy about HER, and now YOU are trying to reshape what she is doing to make it about YOU again to save the relationship and somehow keep it as therapeutic for you.

Your sense that you are betraying her by talking about it is a clear signal that this is no longer about you and your needs and something not-great is going on here. I am really sorry for you that you are going through this. It's a completely awful place to be.

And I'm afraid that the very person who SHOULD be there to help you sort through it, make healthy and strong decisions about what to do next and protect yourself, is no longer available to you in that capacity.

Can you get another opinion from another T?