I just don't think you are really in 'therapy' Mona, I think you are in a relationship with another person and if you are getting something out of it then I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with that, as long as you have got your wits about you because I also see a lot if pain and hurt in your posts, though I could be misreading that. I do sometimes wonder if actually getting another T for your own therapy would be beneficial to you, whilst keeping this relationshi if that is what you choose.