Mona I just wanted to say sorry because I was not very supportive or sympathetic in my response to your posts. I don't suppose you started this thread in order to be judged or 'slammed' and this is what I feel I have done so I am sorry. It just hits a nerve I think, for the reasons I put and those which I have spoken before.

I am sorry that you saw that side of your T and that it threw all you thought you knew out of the window. It can be very hard to think you know someone and then realise that they weren't quite what they appeared. I have spent most of my life believing that every other person I meet in the real world has got everything sorted, has had a fairly easy life and knows who they are and what they are doing Is this naive as you say, yes maybe, but it is hard to see anything but when this is all you see of them. Only now as I am starting to actually introduce people in to my life am I realising that this is not true and it actually helps me feel more settled in some respects, knowing that I am not alone. Maybe you can take something positive out of what must be a very hard and confusing situation for you. I hope that you do talk this through with her when you next meet because it sounds like you want to.

Again, I am sorry for my little outburst and I wish you well.