Hi, Tisha, i just read this thread. What I know for certain is that no one who's been dispensing advice (lots of "leave-hims") has real insight into your relationship. It just rubs me the wrong way when people who know so little are chanting "dump him".

Do what is working for you. If that means an on/off relationship, then that's fine for now, until you decide what you really want or need.

Plus, @artchic, every friendship is a relationship. We have relationships with everyone in our lives. They just aren't as easy to describe as boyfriend/girlfriend later in life.