I think you are painting a picture with a very broad brush. It needs detail. It's like saying "religion is good." That's such a massive statement in such a large area.
If you could narrow the discussion down to types of Porn that might help, but Bec of this site, you probably can't use the descriptive words needed. I'm guessing it would be censored.

Porn is massive & I think you're making generalizations.
These couples that you know, do you know what type of porn they are watching & from what feeds? Do you know the intimate details of their sex life & what happens in their bedrooms? You said you only talked to these women, have you talked to the men? Of course this is a vicious cycle because there is, my guess, little communication.

What is seen as violent to you, might not be violent to others & that's what I'm getting aggressive about! I see that as judgmental. Especially if someone who's reading this thread feels guilty for watching porn & you're stating that it's just all violent.

I think people on this thread might have problems with the title of it. You state that porn is the problem. That's it.
It's such a blanket statement with no depth or discussion. It's just a multi multifaceted area that you're trying to put into a simple statement.

Is the OP saying that porn is the problem in the specific relationships she knows about?

Or is the OP making the more general statement that porn itself is The Problem?(without reference to any specific relationships?)

First off, that sucks that your BF lied to you.



There's porn for women also called sensual porn. I watched with a former female friend of mine last year. There's no mistreatment or "slam-bam-thank-ya-ma'am" type of behavior in these kind of videos. There's more love-making involved.


You are entitled to you opinion. However, I do believe it can improve relationships as long as the couple communicates with each other. There's been studies that porn can actually improve relationships.

5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship


I'm not sure. I'm assuming she's doing both.

I personally think.. too much of any indulgence can lead to an addiction including porn. I will go and look at arousing things every so often and for me its ok. I believe its normal to explore and find out. I am not on porn sites 24/7, honestly rarely. This is when it is addiction. Guess I am saying it is not wrong to find out and enjoy, just do not have it on all the time. Tc