Different perspective can be a wonderful thing. But I honestly believe that you are the only one who can get yourself to the place where you are able to make change (or not). And I think it's a process that takes time.

Maybe you will live like this for a few months until you know what to do. Maybe it's just a few days. Sometimes clarity comes quickly, sometimes it's years of foggy thinking first ....at least it is in my life.

I wish there was a life Magic 8 Ball that really was right all of the time. I would be so much happier. Sadly we're human and that means a lot of trial and error.

Hang in there. Keep posting your trials and tribulations. You're not only helping yourself, but you are helping others too.