everyone is born with their own personality. a persons personality is defined as a combination of characteristics\qualities a person has, how they see the world. how they re act to the world and those in their life,

examples a new born baby may smile when they hear their parents voice, they may be a very quiet baby or a baby that coos\babbles and laughs a lot, or they may be shy, or maybe wiggly\squirmy adventurous into everything as they hit toddlerhood... a boy may like trucks and cars or flowers and dolls, a girl may like make up, dresses and high heels or sweats and climb trees and be physically active.

my point everyone has distinguishing characteristics\qualities that make them who and what they are. I bet if anyone looks at the times when they are not acting out the way someone else is, maybe a time when they are alone they will find out who you really are. a good way to do this is sit down and make a list of things that they like to do, things they dont like to do, their favorite colors, foods, whether they like to sit and be quiet, or if they like to be the center of attention, or physically active...make a list of what they like and dont like about their bodies....all these things define who and what a person is ..

example I am a mother, wife, treatment provider, I like to be physically and mentally fit for what ever happens in my life, I like telling jokes, and doing physical activities but I also have times when I like my quiet alone times to do my journaling, artwork, meditations and enjoy being out in nature. one of my favorite things to do is take my canoe out on the lake and row around enjoying the quietness, I enjoy musicals downtown on broadway, could care less about cleaning the bathroom, or cleaning up the yard after our dogs, I consider myself to be a good looking woman who looks great in jeans and dresses alike. I wear make up at work but prefer my down time when the make up comes off, I can kick off my shoes and wrestle around with my children and spend time with my wife....these are all characteristics\qualities of what kind of personality I have.

everyone is born with what ever personality they are, then as they grow this is expanded by experience of their likes, dislikes and much more. pretending to be other people doesnt get rid of who one is, it just covers up\ puts a mask over who they really are, take off the pretending\masks of copying others and you are back to who every you really are. if you dont like who you are, set some goals on who you want to be and set out accomplish those goals. if you want to be a comedian sit down and write out your own jokes and one liners about yourself and the world, if you want to be a reflective quiet person take time every day to find a quiet place you like so that you can think about your self and your environment. if you want to be like your favorite singer take some voice lessons and develop your own singing style..

.there are many ways a person can discover who they really are with out the pretending\copying of others and develop their own personality into who and what they want their own life to be like.