Is this the same guy you were thinking of marrying but your potential MIL hated you? OMG? What crappy timing. What a guy. Sounds like he can't commit. Good thing you found out now rather than years down the road. But how selfish of him to do this NOW. Will he even talk about it or is his mind made up? Last thing you need right now. No kissing with all that **** if it was me. And what you did when the kids were there is because you are ILL. Did the IP help at all? What a mess. I am so so sorry. Big hugs from Crazy Cat Lady in England.