Hi everyone,
Someone privately accused me of being a codependent the other day regarding my current relationship and that really hurt.
I've been working on my codependency issues over half my life.
They stem from my family of origin and they are not my fault.
I recently started doing a narcissistic abuse recovery program to get at the root of my wounds so I could heal them.
It is not my fault that I am in a relationship with a separated man.
I know his father, wife, best friend, and more.
In other communities it is understood that even though a relationship is dysfunctional it is still a relationship.
I have told my boyfriend that I do not want to be involved with him until he gets divorced and he assures me he will be getting divorced on September 15.
Other men have asked me out, I had been advised to go out with other men by anther community back when I thought my boyfriend had bpd.
My boyfriend denies having bpd.
Now I think he has narcissistic traits, he denies that too.
He and his father and his wife all think he has Aspergers.
He is in therapy and supposedly is going to be getting a diagnosis at the end of the week.
His father has asked me for help to read about Aspergers.
I even have a book at the library on Aspergers.

Please don't tell me its wrong to be involved with a separated man.
Please don't tell me its my responsibility to make sure he gets divorced.
I am not currently involved with him however I am still in contact with him.