My T does not allow email or text and I used to think that I was jealous of those that were able to connect with their T through either text or email. But, after reading so many posts about Ts not responding to emails or with folks waiting and waiting for T's to respond, I realized that it would drive me crazy if I emailed and had to wait and wait for a response or deal with NO RESPONSE. I think that for me, it's best that I am not allowed to email or text. There was ONE time when I really needed some reassurance from her and I left her a voicemail which she returned within a couple of hours. So, I know that if I have an EMERGENCY that she will respond and that's good enough for me.

On another note, there are LOTS of times that I write draft emails to myself with a list of things that I want to remember or discuss and that seems to help me a lot by getting my thoughts in order ahead of my appointment.

There was one time where I wanted to email and since it was not allowed, I typed up a letter, left it with the admin and left her a message to check her mail box. She said that she preferred that I didn't leave her notes but wait until session so that I was sure that what I put in the note was what I really wanted to discuss and that I was truly ready to discuss it.. I've felt remorseful after what I consider over-sharing so she thinks that I should not send her random notes and that if I'm not comfortable discussing it that I am probably not ready and shouldn't push myself.

Hope that this all makes sense.