I am confused because your story keeps changing. In chat you said you thought you were codependent. You've said you think he has one thing and then another. At first he was lying to you, but now he didn't or hasn't.

I don't think anyone here is judging you. From what I've seen of your interactions, if someone doesn't agree with you, you immediately write them off and assume they are judging you. Just because people give you advice (that you asked for) that you don't like doesn't mean they are judging you. They are only going off of the information that you give them. If it bothers you so much to hear what you don't like then maybe you should rethink what you post?

I just think, from my perspective, if you ask for support you have to be prepared that people will say things that you don't agree with.

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