If you are happy and content with this man and he is wonderful, then it doesn't really matter what everyone else says. I wouldn't get upset. But you come across unhappy and one of the reasons might be that you are with a man who is not well suitable as a partner due to being a liar and perhaps other not so so nice things.

You certainly didn't cause him to be this way so no one is blaming you. You are simply making your choices to stay with him and these choices making you are unhappy. So perhaps you may consider different course of action when it comes to choosing and staying with these types of men. But again as hard as it may be it's your choice, no one else's

I would hesitate to constantly diagnose and label people. Unless he shared with you his official diagnosis, saying he has BPD or npd or Aspergers etc is a bit uncalled for, and of course he denies it. Also the official diagnosis would ASD ( autism spectrum disorder as what they used to diagnose as Asperger is a mild form of ASD) , I do this for a living.

Honestly no man is worth to neglect your dignity and self respect and I am glad you are working on improving your codependency. Are you are addressing the issue with this man at your meetings and with therapist?

I think it's really horrid he "proposed" to you while married to someone else and lying to you that he isn't. It is like all times low. I don't understand how it's ok or a sign of any type of commitment. It's mortifying. You certainly can do better than this.

I hope your meeting and therapy could help you to make good choices in the future

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