Hi NoChildSupport,

I'm not sure if he'd meant/means it as a joke, meant it in the cruel way you feel it as, or ever meant for you to feel hurt.......but I do totally understand how hurtful it must have been for you
Who knows, maybe he'd really/fully intended to get you a gift and forgot.........or had problems.............leading to him being embarrassed or ashamed about not getting one and tried to lighten/defuse the situation by making a joke or push it away by getting annoyed...........
Of course, that doesn't make the situation right at all ..........just thinking of possibilities........

And where to go from here.........I think that depends on how you see the rest of your friend/relationship with him, and how he treats you in general...........if he's often letting you down that will be different than if he is generally/the vast majority of the time reliable/important in your life............but you could explain to him fully how that made you feel, you could set some "ground-rules" to try to avoid something like this in the future (including no lying from him!!!)..............

If he matters to you, and is committed to respecting your feelings going on...........then I'd say that you could move on from this, it may not be easy for you but..........maybe give him a chance to show that you can trust him, and that he does care about your feelings/about you from here on in...........he might not get everything right (no-one can!!!) but if you can agree on the important things to aim for............



Alison